I quess I have understood why woman is a kindler of a hearth.
If woman doesn`t smile, laugh and stay tender and happy, men will be also awful and cold.
Woman is that light which can burn in the men`s heart and makes him do somethin good and useful, makes him be resoursful and attentive, makes him care about woman and family.
So that overcome yourself, your weakness and find happiness in every minute!